tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post4742941033537901317..comments2023-10-18T08:38:58.474-06:00Comments on Abiding Joy: My StoryCherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12084809272304095697noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-1215582469055458112008-09-21T15:52:00.000-06:002008-09-21T15:52:00.000-06:00You are so right, I think all moms (myself include...You are so right, I think all moms (myself included) put way too much pressure on ourselves and forget to count our blessings...It's a great idea to have a forum for an outlet. Maybe I'll come on here and lay off the shoe collection for a while! (c;Aubrey {All Things Bright and Beautiful}https://www.blogger.com/profile/15884954183429490762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-50336213602682262392008-09-20T22:13:00.000-06:002008-09-20T22:13:00.000-06:00I am not a mother, nor am I married, but still, as...I am not a mother, nor am I married, but still, as a student and a woman I hear you, Cheryl. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in high school, and it has been a huge struggle for me to overcome for the last 10 years. I've finally admitted to myself that isn't necessarily something I can "overcome," but it is something that I don't have to "suffer from." I think it is great that you have started this blog, not only because we all have so many preconceived notions about what women think and who we are, but because we can come together and see similarities in our experience, no matter how different. So, hurray, and hello again!aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12563472723867223350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-74372752952470127122008-09-19T19:42:00.000-06:002008-09-19T19:42:00.000-06:00It is nice to have support from other women. I loo...It is nice to have support from other women. I look forward to participating in the discussions and getting feedback from others.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02369336413675199769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-17215004242302977162008-09-19T17:57:00.000-06:002008-09-19T17:57:00.000-06:00I think this is a wonderful idea and I look forwar...I think this is a wonderful idea and I look forward to reading it! I hope from time to time I'll also have something insightful to say...we'll see.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10967176364712402329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-87739252082682301272008-09-18T22:47:00.000-06:002008-09-18T22:47:00.000-06:00I am also so proud of you for sharing your thought...I am also so proud of you for sharing your thoughts and feelings about this hard and misunderstood topic. I am still learning about it. I have heard that more LDS women have depression than others and I can see why. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. The perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect LDS woman. We should strive for perfection but like Pres. Hinkley said, "just do a little better." You do so many great things. Think about the good you are doing!cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03550819944429257476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-44871900395652939632008-09-18T15:22:00.000-06:002008-09-18T15:22:00.000-06:00Hey Cher-bear,Remember me, your old roommate Capta...Hey Cher-bear,<BR/>Remember me, your old roommate Captain Pratty. This is a great blog and definitely an important topic. Do you remember Joseph from the Elms ward? His last name escapes me right now but I remember once he said he didn't understand why anyone in the church would be depressed. I didn't understand how he couldn't understand! I have a single friend who recently almost left the church simply because she felt she couldn't be happy, single and mormon at the same time.<BR/>I'm glad you're reaching out and I have great faith that you'll find a way to keep the perspective you need.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07266737456345147642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-69338236345890068272008-09-18T14:31:00.000-06:002008-09-18T14:31:00.000-06:00You are so amazing for making a blog like this. I ...You are so amazing for making a blog like this. I too have suffered from depression. I had late onset Postpartum depression with Isaiah and it hasn't gone away since. However, I do find comfort in knowing other people who have had it and I think that a big part of recovering from those bad days is to turn to our heavenly father and prayer, prayer, prayer. As a nurse I know how serious depression is and I commend you for letting the world in on what depression is and all your helpful hints. You are amazing and I look forward to coming back to the blog often.TheMerkelFamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16860900795853298009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-30551768293110933732008-09-18T09:51:00.000-06:002008-09-18T09:51:00.000-06:00Cheryl, I think this is great! It is very importa...Cheryl, I think this is great! It is very important for women who struggle with this to have a support group. Depression is something that I have carried with me every day of my life for as long as I can remember. I think that being critical of myself is my #1 talent. Even right now I am thinking that people are going to think I am dumb for leaving this comment. <BR/>Thank you for doing this.Linseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14109419967829150178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-50138478722167689942008-09-18T08:06:00.000-06:002008-09-18T08:06:00.000-06:00Cheryl, thanks for being so candid. Women feel th...Cheryl, thanks for being so candid. Women feel the pressures of perfectionism from so many different angles. It is a beautiful thing that you are sharing your heart with us.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11538854972129590140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-52966969712863638802008-09-17T20:54:00.000-06:002008-09-17T20:54:00.000-06:00Wow. I have struggled off and on with depression ...Wow. I have struggled off and on with depression for the past several years...more since Keali was born. Post-partum hit me hard. I think this is a great idea. Unlike you, I didn't feel the pressure to be the perfect everything--I just didn't do anything unless I absolutely had to. My house was always at least slightly messy, my kids dressed in whatever I could find. Heath did so much around the house and with the kids that I literally dreaded when he would leave the house and counted the minutes until he came home. I was terrified of not being able to take care of the kids by myself. <BR/>I am slowly working my way out of it, but I love the idea of this blog. I look forward to visiting it often!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13566122875553966126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-16698989887886022632008-09-17T20:27:00.000-06:002008-09-17T20:27:00.000-06:00Wow! I can't believe how well you worded everythin...Wow! I can't believe how well you worded everything.<BR/>As I flew this past summer to different places with the girls I kept thinking "They are nuts! do they really think that I will give myself oxygen before I give it to my kids??" And as I crashed I realized that I'm dying because I saved them first, the worst part is that my family needs ME, Belky, not supermom and since I crashed, we are both gone.<BR/>So, now I am working on getting Belky back, my tip, do something little everyday that I really enjoy ( I now dance once a day) and ask to Heavenly Father to teach me to forgive myself.<BR/> As for lunches... I am so bad about them, and Dave will not buy it for himself to save that little body of his!!Belkycitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08150629040326011626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-46524393362413970432008-09-17T19:29:00.000-06:002008-09-17T19:29:00.000-06:00Two weeks ago our theme for Stake Conference was t...Two weeks ago our theme for Stake Conference was this: "We can be what we are supposed to be even if we cannot do everything we are supposed to do." I loved it. It was nice to finally hear that I don't have to be superwoman to be a great mom. I am putting this quote in my bathroom so I can see it every morning and night and remember that I am awesome even if I didn't accomplish a tenth of the things I think(or any other person thinks) I should have accomplished. I hope you like the quote too. :)On Our Listhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16327126272176036107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-1051214000148373802008-09-17T16:45:00.000-06:002008-09-17T16:45:00.000-06:00I'm looking forward to reading about what you have...I'm looking forward to reading about what you have to say, especially about depression. This is something that I have never really understood, although I've watched close friends deal with it and felt its fingers a few times too. And, I have to add, that I never make Eric's lunch. EVER. I think it's a habit from when we were both working. Sometimes he gives me a hard time about it, but it's his lunch, he can make it. I make mine. Of course, that doesn't stop me from getting mad at him when he buys himself lunch. I guess we each have our own issues, huh? :) And by the way, I think you're awesome and I love and miss you and your family!!!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02633492873119438993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-20556254370930405572008-09-17T15:49:00.000-06:002008-09-17T15:49:00.000-06:00okay, I didn't finish reading all of it, but heck,...okay, I didn't finish reading all of it, but heck, you even tried to go for a morning run. That's amazing. And fyi, Jon's been taking Marie Calendar's for lunch for the past THREE MONTHS! One day, his boss's wife even made him lunch because she felt bad for him. :) How's that for a confession? Surprisingly, I don't feel bad about it at all.Anna and Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891276761120107573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899894682659638642.post-11311344444940504202008-09-17T15:42:00.000-06:002008-09-17T15:42:00.000-06:00I love the idea of women learning from other women...I love the idea of women learning from other women's experiences and not judging. You are very intuitive, so many people need an outlet but don't know how to find it. You're awesome.Starting Overhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16688631287909288264noreply@blogger.com